|Excerpts - Write From The Heart|
From the Introduction
Writing from the Heart is a book for women who want to write but think they have nothing to say, or women who know they have some-
thing to say but don't know how to say it. As women, many of us have been told that our words aren't important. We have been told time and again that what we have to say doesn't matter. We have been told that we are too young to write, too old to write, too dumb to write, too sentimental to write, too hysterical, too sad, too angry, too insignificant, too female to write. It takes work and courage to hush these voices that have taken up residence in our brains and declare: "You're wrong. I do have something to say." Often when a woman gets this far she faces another hurdle: the voice that says, "All right, maybe you do have something to say. Go ahead and write if you want, but you know it's not going to be any good."
Now Hear this: Every woman has important stories to tell and the ability to tell them. There are no exceptions. Not even you. I have been teaching women's writing workshops for the past ten years, and out of the hundreds of women I have been privileged to work with, I have never met one who had nothing to say. On the contrary, after taking a "Write from the Heart" workshop, many women who had started out saying, "I have nothing to write about" wound up declaring, "I have so much to write about, I don't know where to start!"
Writers are not special. Rather every woman has the potential to be a special writer. This contradicts everything most of us have been taught. I learned early on that writers were indeed special; they were ultrasen-
sitive, they had to be tiptoed around and handled with kid gloves. I also learned that writers were mostly male. If you happened to be female, your chances of being a successful writer increased if you were depressed, or preferably dead. When I was in a graduate writing pro-
gram in 1981, there were two portraits hanging on the walls of the student writing lounge: one of Sylvia Plath and one of Anne Sexton. These two fine poets both committed suicide. While I can admire their work, they are not whom I would pick as role models.
I am now my own role model. I know I don't have to be depressed or dead or an alcoholic in an ivory tower or a junkie on skid row or any other "romantic" image of a writer in order to write. My life is quite ordinary. I get up, shower, dress, eat breakfast and sit down to write at 9:15 five mornings a week. I write all morning, break for lunch and continue writing for part of the afternoon. Around 3:30 I leave my study to do "writing errands," which usually involves a trip to the post office, stationery store and copy shop. I come home, share dinner with my spouse and teach writing classes four nights a week. Then I read or watch TV, perhaps have a snack and go to bed.
Sound pretty ordinary? Throw in doing the laundry, going grocery shopping, paying the bills and taking the cat to the vet, and I'll bet my life sounds pretty much like yours. In fact, you may be wondering right now, "What in the world does she have to write about?"
Nothing much. Absolutely everything. The stuff of my life which is ordinary, yet extraordinary. I have met many women who think they can't be writers because their lives aren't interesting enough to write about. This is simply untrue. Everyone's life is mysterious, beautiful, stunning magic. It doesn't matter if you've lived in the same town your whole life or traveled around the world seven times. What matters is your ability to open up to the breathtaking and spectacular adventure that happens to be your life. Your job is to experience it, see it, feel it, live it and write it down.....
©2003 Lesléa Newman